September: Phase 9 Arrival
September: The Essence, Felt
The essence of the 12 Phases™ is that it builds onto only you. Even I am surprised at how specific the build is, directly attaching to the place I've come to - adding, building, a bit better version of myself.
Looking back on September, the personal events were greater, in my heart, than what's happening for us all. My hope is that you find that place in your heart that feels the change. Few will incorporate the Phases™ into their worldview and daily experience the way I have learned to do, but I encourage you to start the journey.
Life will hand you experiences that provide lessons. Your situations distract you from how you feel during pivotal life experiences. Spontaneous physical reactions are not from the conscious mind. The Phases™ can help you recognize how you are affected in the greater wisdom of your heart's mind.
Expansion of wisdom is growth in your heart's mind.
One event that impacted us all to varying degrees was the murder of Charlie Kirk. I did not know who he was until this tragic event, so I watched as the horror went through his audiences, all the way to President Trump. I wondered, Did this change Trump's heart in any way?'
None of us can know how others are affected in their deep, unconscious reservoir of life knowledge. But Charlie Kirk was killed in his youth, 31 years old. Even I had to look at least one video of him holding an open forum. His patience and persistence showed; he listened to his opponents and defended his conservative position reasonably and calmly. In a divisive political atmosphere, that is quite an accomplishment. Even I felt a loss.
Otherwise, the September events in my life added up. But what I did not expect was the way I was changed - in my heart. It is impossible for me to describe the moment of change so that you can feel what I felt. I just hope that you can see the connected progression of the events that follows.
Events during September that led to a new thing in my heart:
First 12 Days: Intuition
September 1:
I met with a new client, a young man whose mother thought that a session with me could help him make good life choices. I am used to new clients enjoying the rhythm of the Phases™ under their life experiences, but this young man took up my presentation with an even more open mind. He received it as a gift.
I have been working on language so that my clients can better relate to how the Phases™ work in their life. This man surprised me when he had the visuals I sent him, and at one point, directed me to his life cycle calendar for words I had written. I was so surprised that it meant enough to him that he helped me stay with myself! Feeling affirmed by what we discovered, he said he was “excited” by his position in life.
September 3:
Reading Aesthetic Intelligence by Pauline Brown:
I love her observation, that we are shifting away from consumerism toward "people’s desire to create moments and memories that last a lifetime." (pg. 199)
September 7:
Family gets the attention.
When I moved on a previous plan to buy a birthday gift for a beloved aunt, trouble online doubled my gift. I let go of my annoyance with the second company and accepted the fumble that cost more money. In the end, I realized that the “errors” caused sending two gifts did express my intention.
In an impromptu birthday meal with a sister for her grandson, I find this teenager respectful and open to conversation about his life cycle position. It makes sense to him because he is very self-aware. Another very surprising occasion.
September 8:
New insights about user experiences leads me to update the website to bring out my core belief about individuality and how Nature supports it. This shift of focus to Nature as the source of the phases system moves me closer to wisdom, making the fact that I named the system secondary to its existence. I feel the passion as I write.
September 10:
Charlie Kirk, peaceful political conservative activist killed. Trump and followers express deep shock and hurt. I wonder if this personal impact will affect Trump. Born June 14, 1946, this is Trump's Life Cycle Phase Seven, 80th year, 3rd month, 28th day.
September 11:
Turned to lessons about people's experiences with coaching. AI had lengthy streams of information on individual aspects, giving me words I think but don't use. I feel a lack at my core that shook me; I am so far away from how most people think. A sidebar on the search listed an actual study, “Guiding Personal Growth,” that uses a system to separate people from the external influences and control to increase self-awareness.
September 12:
I needed to think... Strong emotional distress and intellectual discomfort makes me wonder if I'm on the wrong side of good. Years of experience with the Phases™ help me accept the good at work in me without knowing what it is.
Second 12 Days: Priorities
September 13:
My family five hours away - my daughter and my grandchildren. We talk by phone about her challenges raising her grandchildren in the absence of a drug-dependent mother. Looking inward, I realize that family far away has moved up in my priorities. I realize that the help I can give is actually needed.
September 19:
A long-time friend who lives there calls me to share a new health discovery. As we catch up, we talk about my new living space. She makes a tentative offer, inviting me to consider renting space in her home. This would give me the chance to live near my family - maybe the only way I could.
September 21:
As I finish reading User Friendly: How the Hidden Rules of Design are Changing the Way We Live, Work, and Play, I smile. I wonder how I could enjoy this extensive, detailed history of user-friendly developments in technology? And then it occurs to me that I am a designer like them. The book makes sense to me.
September 22:
Just after midnight, in the first hours, I can't sleep, wrestling with my position regarding the authority of good over my priorities. It makes sense that love is the issue, my lack of it. Writhing in agony and reaching the end of mental searching, I ask God for help, to see what the process is doing. What am I missing?
The answer comes slowly. Where I live now is a struggle because it is a house where the animals rule. I see I must separate my friend's love for the way she lives from my total inability to cozy up to it. I choose to care for her as a friend; this gives me a position of strength without judging her life.
The heavy load as the fill-in animal caretaker turns me toward the heavy load of potentially being available to help my daughter and the kids. It's a surprisingly easy choice: love makes the difference. I love my family; I do not love my friend's animals. I try to feel love, but not finding it, I see where I am - on the wrong side of good. Love is just a fact to me.
As an adjustment to my personal priority system, toward meaning and improved perspective, the experience fits. Not able to find genuine feeling, my mind turns again to lessons about coaching. In an effort to learn how other leaders experience and explain self-realization, I get new books to read, going further down the path of self-realization:
The Courage to be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness, Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, 2013
F the Shoulds. Do the Wants: Get Clear on Who You Are, What You Want, and Why You Want It, by Huffman, Tricia
Purpose : find your truth and embrace your calling, by Jessica Huie
Third 12 Days, Partial: Choosing How to Relate to What I Learned
Phase Nine Principle Operation: A manifestation of a new good
September 25:
I meet with a good friend to celebrate my birthday. We enjoy a long, free-flowing conversation that moves around different aspects of our lives. It is mutual and spontaneous. She is a coach in the school system and eventually shares a particularly satisfying day coaching teenagers.
I share with her what I am reading in the study that compares the increased benefit of coaching over self-directed learning. Through the years that I have shared my work with her, this is the first time she could see its relevance to her work.
In my life cycle, this day is the end of 12th month and, later, it continues to be a huge struggle to see the permanent good I've come to expect in Phase 12™. I remember weighing the two "heavy loads": animal duties on my own vs. helping my family that lives five hours away. As I accept love as the difference and the enabling factor, my heart is pierced with a true moment of emotional love.
September 29:
The heart's mind is about increasing good in your heart, done in 12 phases. Love is the highest good.
In reading Purpose: Find Your Truth and Embrace your Calling , I feel her words as a good description of how the Phases™ work life events as a positive, ones that seem negative. My struggle toward the new experience about love was heart-rending, like other major adjustments in my life.
Jessica Huie writes:
"...incidents that society perceives as rock-bottom are in fact the perfect vessels for transformation...where every moment is exactly as it should be." (Pg. 23)
The connection between the two seems new to me, but naturally right. Since my heart was pierced a few days ago, the rise of this connection happened in my unconscious mind. When it reached its conclusion, the thought occurred in my subconscious. As I felt the effect of the thought, my conscious mind embraced it.
September 30, the final day of September and of Phase 9.
I have an intense desire to separate myself from my friend's way, from the priority her animals hold in her young life. All I have to do is make the separation physical. As I act on this desire in an easy, simple way, my heart rises. What I love reveals itself to me.
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Referenced in this blog:
Aesthetic Intelligence by Pauline Brown
Charlie Kirk memorial service on September 21, 2025, as covered by Fox News.
"Guiding Personal Growth: The Significant Impact of Self-Awareness Coaching Compared to Self-Directed Learning," a study by Carlos Mejia. Download
User Friendly: How the Hidden Rules of Design are Changing the Way We Live, Work, and Play, by Cliff Kuang and Robert Fabricant.
The Courage to be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga.
F the Shoulds. Do the Wants: Get Clear on Who You Are, What You Want, and Why You Want It, by Tricia Huffman.
Purpose: Find Your Truth and Embrace your Calling, by Jessica Huie.